Sometimes things are hard. We have all experienced hard things in life; that is just the nature of being alive. I have recently been on the receiving end of some of life’s hard things and I have to say, it took the wind out of my sails for a little bit. I had an unexpected shift in roles at work that really took me by surprise. And I learned something about a loved one that cut me to the core. I felt (and still feel) helpless. Both of these things happened within a couple of days of each other, and it took my breath away.
Why? Why do hard things happen? Why is it that when we are on a path of healing something will come along to threaten all of the forward progress we’ve made? Because we are human, and we live in an imperfect world. We were never promised that life would be easy; we were promised that we would never be alone.
I still don’t understand it and I still struggle. When everything seems to be crashing down, it is hard to see anything else but the hard things. It is so easy to get hyper-focused on the problems and trials that are right in front of me and lose sight of the bigger picture. I spend one day in bed all day, giving in to the depression and lies and I forget about all the other days that I hauled my butt out of bed even when I didn’t want to. I allow the dark thoughts in for a little while and I forget about all of the days that I have fought the darkness with the light and won.
I’ll admit, there have been some heavy days over the last little while and it would be so easy to just surrender; to just give up and say, “I can’t do this”. But I won’t. Because when I look behind me, I see just how far I have come on this journey of healing. I see the hard work and the tears and the people who have helped me come to this place. Am I at the finish line? Nope. Will there be hard things on this journey? Yup. Does it mean that I am going to give up and cry, “Uncle”? No, I won’t. Because at this point on the road to recovery I see the bigger picture. I see that this isn’t just about me. I see that I am never alone. I see the hard things, but I see past those hard things to the healing that they will ultimately bring.
So, what is your hard thing? What is it that you are facing today? Can you see beyond the hard thing and see the growth that will come on the other side? Do you realize that you are not alone? I know that in the dark valley it can feel like there is no one around and that there is no escape, but trust me, you are not alone, and the light will come again. So, take a deep breath. Relax your shoulders and jaw. And face the hard thing. You can do this.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope”
Martin Luther King